It was just yesterday that a male friend of mine challenged me to justify a woman's right to wear revealing clothes and yet not expect grabbing male attention in the wrong sense. All i can say to my dear friend is that as a a free, independent, working and most importantly a thinking female i don't hold myself accountable, for my actions forget my sense of dressing up, to any man on earth. As a living being and as an individual im entitled to as much freedom of ex-pression and coutoure as my opposite sex is. And my question to this friend of mine is that who does he think gave him a right to voice such a trivial issue? Why do all men think that they have a right to teach women lessons in morality when they are the ones who would not think even once before raping her or molesting her, if granted an opportunity?

Holding a woman's dress responsible for bringing upon misfortune on her is an excuse often given by men inorder to hide their own vulnerability and lack of self control. Their raging harmones, brutish character and masochism are some of the reasons that drive them to commit a crime as henious as rape and blaming it on the women further discloses their handicap in maintaining their status as the ultimate authority on a woman's life. If they consider themselves to be brave and qualified enough to tell a woman what is good or bad for her then why do they indulge in an act as horrible and damaging as rape or sexual assault?

As a feminist, i have always believed in the emancipation of women. To be able to do things the way they want to, to be able to wear what they feel like, go where ever they want to and with who ever they want to are little little things that would make them feel independent. The recent incident of a mob of 70-80 men pouncing on 2 helpless women, at the dead of the night, in the country's most safe city just goes on to define how pervert men have become. They were not wearing revealing clothes yet were attacked in the most shameless of manner. Their clothes were torn and they were molested by hordes of men for absolutely no fault of theirs...or is it their fault that they were women who had come out to celebrate the beginning of new year the way the rest of the world had? So tell me how would men justify this repugnantly hateful act of their's?

The purpose of women's clothing should be like that of a barbwire; protect the object without obstructing the view. The length of the cloth doesn't matter as long as the person wearing it is comfortable walking around in it. Men will be men and would continue to blame it on the women because blame game happens to be each man's favorite sport. With their kind of built and strenght the best way to harm a woman is by physically attacking her. They are smart enough to know that by forcing themselves, physically, on a women is the best way to make them bow down to them but fools enough to understand that their pleasure of few minutes can destroy the whole life of a woman forever. They refuse to acknowledge the pain that they would be forced to live with for the rest of their life. When men feel threatend by the precsence of a woman the best way to bring her down, according to them is, is by physically demean them. For every unrequitted lover, rape is the only way he thinks he can make that woman her's. To revenge upon her sexual assualt is what they restore to because it would cause her permanent damage. How sick such a thinking is!!

Blaming short skirts, tight tops or skin revealing clothes is not the reason why crime against women is gaining strenght. Women in villages and small towns, who drape six yards of cloth or wear salwar kameez, are equally subjected to such kind of humiliation. So tell me for how long can a women's clothing be held responsible for her maltreatment by the so called stronger sex? If there is something that is deplorable in such a scenario then it is the very putrid mind of men, around the world, who look at every women as an object to curb their sexual appetite. For them no matter how young or old a woman is, she is meant to only sexually gratify him and nothing else.

To all the men who are quick enough to blame a women for inviting trouble by dressing up wrong, all i would say is that there is nothing wrong in dressing up to look beautiful. The trouble lies in the mind and the eyes of the person who takes it otherwise. It is the thinking of that person which is at fault who views the women as an object of sex. It is he who needs to change and rehabilitate the beast within him rather than feed him by pouncing mercilessliy on vulnerable damsels.

Try and appreciate beauty and not spoil it by unleashing your demonic side on it.